Cherishing Life



It seems I only post some thing when there is a certain subject on my mind. Which I guess is a good reason to post. Tonight the things on my mind seem to be car accidents and cherishing life while it's here.

The reason for this could partly be because last night as I was standing at the Dairy Queen with Heidi I heard an accident happen. I turned around to see that some one I knew was involved. He was okay, and so was every one else. It felt like dejvue though. I too had just been through the very same thing back in December. On a snowy day I was driving from the chiropractor to work to drop off my doctors note when my car was totalled. I too was okay, but all accidents can end badly. I also believe that a large majority can be prevented. The day of my accident the girl that hit me was driving too fast, I very much believe that. She was driving and all wheel drive car and there was no reason she should have lost control.. Some interesting but scary facts;

Around 40,000 Americans are killed each year in car accidents.
Drivers are more than twice as likely to die as their passengers. After drivers and passengers, the third group of people most commonly killed is pedestrians, followed by bicyclists.

More than half (around 57%) of car crashes with fatalities involve a single vehicle.

Tonight I also saw a post on one of the car forums I read that a guy had lost a co worker and friend to a car accident. He said he never would have thought that night when he talked to her that she would lose her life.

And this is where my brain shifts to cherishing life. We never know when things are going to happen. We never know when one time we talk to some one could be the last time. I think we all get to caught up in the hustle and constant pressures of life and we forget just how precious life really is. Any time could be the last time you talk to some one. Not by choice but because some thing tragic happens. Some times people never get that chance to say good bye.

Slowing down and appreciating life is one of the things on my summer to do list. Not getting caught up in the craziness of life, slowing down, using caution, and telling people how I feel. You never know when the last time will be the last time. Don't take life for granted. Tomorrow is never promised.

Judging Others...

I always liked to think that I was a very fair person. That I was in no way quick to judge other people before I knew them. I have proven myself very wrong in the last few weeks, with the help of some one that has recently come into my life.

So I guess to start my story, I need to explain that I have an undying love for cars. My latest love was wrecked just 3 short months after I bought her. So when the journey began to fix it, I began looking on the Internet for parts. I came across this stratus coupe forum, which I hung around for a couple of days, the people seemed nice and helpful so I joined. I never expected anything that did happen to happen.

It seems there is a young man pretty close to my age that is also a member, he lives around 2 hours away and is exactly my definition of out of my league. Even though I have never ever met him. That seemed to be judgment number 1.

Well anyway, him and I started talking a little more and a little more through emails, mostly about cars at first then a little more about personal stuff. It wasn't long before I developed a big old Internet crush on him. lol laugh all you want right now, but it happens!!

I learned that he is a personal trainer, very into fitness and sports. This is where I made another judgement. I assumed because he is a personal trainer that he was some beef cake jerk off with no personality. My third judgment came when I assumed that he would never ever like me, never ever even want to be my friend.

About a week past before he gave me his number. I was all kinds of excited about that. So I returned the favor and gave him mine, He said "it would be much easier then emailing"..... Okay :) So we chatted a bit, we flirted a bit, and we are quickly becoming friends. In here I made another judgement. I assumed that because I am a bigger girl he would never like me. I don't know if that judgement it true or not, but he told me I was pretty and had beautiful eyes.

Point is, I was so busy worrying about him judging me that I never turned it around to see that I was judging him. He has never given me any indication that he is a beef cake jerk off, and all of that stuff was all in my head. The more I get to know him the more I learn that he is very caring, has a great personality and an awesome sense of humor. 

I am glad that I have realized all of this at this point. It makes me wonder how many times I have done all of these little things in the past, and it makes me feel bad for jumping to conclusions. I am now a little more aware that I need to sweep my steps before I tell anyone to sweep theirs. Lesson learned, not every one is what you think they are going to be!